LIFESTYLE OF A MUSLIMAH

THE HUSBAND WIFE RELATIONSHIP IN ISLAM Marwan Boustany As is commonly (if not always) the case in the Qur’an, we can look at a topic from the general perspective and from the specific perspective.  The general perspective acts as the interpretive context for specific guidelines.  Whether it is modesty, marriage or economic theory, we have two levels of consideration to guide us to a proper interpretation. The General Guidelines The following general guidelines must be adhered to always in a marriage and they must act as the background for the specific guidelines dealt with in the next section. Love, Mercy and Tranquillity وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم  ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُ‌ونَ And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you .  Indeed in that are signs for a p...

SEARCHING FOR A LIFE PARTNER In life, one of the most important choice you will need to make is who to marry. This choice is so important that if you miss it, you will suffer for long, if you get it right then you will enjoy forever. A bad marriage can affect every other area of your life. This subject is so important to the extent that so many married people are hoping to be single again so as to be able to make the right choice all over again. If you are single please don't just be in a hurry to get married, because you still have the best opportunity to prepare for it. For two people to come together to live in peace and harmony, they must agree spiritually, mentally and physically. Just like an elephant cannot marry an ant so also a believer cannot marry an unbeliever. If an elephant marries an ant how would they live, if a goat marries a fish where would they meet? You must look for a sincere and righteous man or a sincere and righteous woman to marry, nothing can beat t...

NEVER LOOSE HOPE *Stay close to Allah and when you Mess up, Go back to Him. *Never, ever stop going back to Him. *Repent often..Cry to Allah. *And hold on tight-with your Life-to His remembrance and to Prayer. *If you do this, you may get Wet, but you will never Drown in this ocean of Dunya InShaAllah . *The Body has many needs, but the Soul has only one, To be with Allah.

*Dear my pious noble  sisters In Islam..* . Please  be aware of being one of these women . Some women are cursed by Allaah . . Meaning ( cast out from the Mercy of Allaah SWT) . . It is the Mercy of Allaah that makes a person to enter Paradise (al-jannah). .  1) *Al Washimah :* woman  who practices tattooing.. .  2) *Al Mustawshimah:*  the one who gets herself tattooed  . 3) *Al Namisah :* woman who trims (plucks) somebody else's eyebrows in order to make it thin . 4) *Al Mutanamisah:* who gets the hair of her eyebrows plucked. .  5) *Al wasilah:* the woman who adds false hair to the hair of woman (who makes wigs) . 6) *Al Mustawsilah* : the one who asks for adding the hair to her hair . 7) *Al washirah*: who files the teeth of others to make them smaller (for the purpose of beautification.) . 8) *Al Mustawshirah*: the one who gets her teeth filed. . 9) *Al Mutafallijah* :  who creates a space between their t...

"So whosoever disbelieves, on him will be his disbelief." (Quran 35:39) Islam is not affected when a person leaves it. Allah does not need us nor does the religion. The Muslim ummah continues to grow, despite those who leave and think they have found a better way. Asking Muslims to be inclusive of those who leave the faith is absurd, it is the biggest brotherhood in the world. What unites us as a community is our faith - so when a person decides to leave, then we won't welcome his disbelief and he will leave this brotherhood of over 1 billion people. There is no compulsion in the religion and especially here in the west, we have to accept that there are those who have had bad experiences with their families / masajid / imams etc and this leads them out of the faith. Likewise, with a lack of emphasis on learning the correct creed, some 'Muslims' are bound to leave Islam when they are faced with theories such as Evolution, Big Bang etc. People apostated from...

Praying for enemies in Islam By Abu Amina Elias In the name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful It was the practice of the Prophet ﷺ to supplicate and pray to Allah to guide his enemies of Islam and to benefit them in the Hereafter. Islam teaches us to love for others what we love for ourselves. Each one of us wants to be guided and, therefore, we should ask Allah to guide others even if they are unbelievers, sinners, or oppressors. Abdullah ibn Mas’ud reported: I saw the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, tell the story of a prophet who was beaten by his people and he wiped the blood from his face, saying: رَبِّ اغْفِرْ لِقَوْمِي فَإِنَّهُمْ لاَ يَعْلَمُونَ My Lord, forgive my people for they do not know. Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 6530, Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi In another narration, the Prophet ﷺ himself said this prayer after being attacked and harmed during the battle of Uhud: اللَّهُمَّ اغْفِرْ لِقَوْمِي فَإِنَّهُمْ لا يَعْلَمُونَ O Allah, forg...

O Allah, grant Your victory to the people of Aleppo and the Muslims of this Ummah in general, support them with Your support, supply them with Your aid, strengthen their hearts and make their feet firm; and deal with those who have oppressed, aggressed against and transgressed. Ameen اللهم انصر أهل (حلب) وعامة المسلمين في سوريا بنصرك وأيدهم بتأييدك، وأمدهم بعونك، واربط على قلوبهم وثبت أقدامهم. وعليك بمن ظلم وبغى وطغى Please keep all those who are oppressed in your du'aas: Afghanistan, Burma, Palestine, Iraaq, Kashmeer, Syria, Yemen.... Etc etc 😣

FRIDAY DO'S & DONTS "Whoever neglects 3 jumu'ahs in a row, (out of negligence) Allah will place a seal on his heart"   •[At-Tirmidhi, Abu Dawood ] ♳The Prophetﷺsaid; When it's Friday, Angels stand at the gate of Every Mosque & record people in order of their Arrival.When the Imaam sits on the pulpit,( to deliver khutba) they (Angels fold up their sheets ) He who COMES EARLY is like one who offers a SHE -CAMEL as sacrifice, The next like one who  offers a COW ,The Next a RAM,Next a HEN, Next an EGG!  •[Reported  Abu Hurairah ]  ♴.FRIDAY [Qur'an 62:9] 'O you who believe!When(Adhaan)is called for Jumu'ah , come to the remembrance of Allah & leave business& every other thing) That's better for you if you only knew! ♵.The Prophetﷺsaid: "If you say:'BE QUIET', While the Imaam is delivering Khutba, you have committed Laghn (spoken in vain)"       •[Sunan Abu Dawud,] ♶. The Prophetﷺ said: The CLOSEST o...

Prophet's Guidance on curing Fear and Insomnia روى الترمذىُّ في ‏(‏جامعه‏)‏ عن بُريدةَ قال ‏:‏ شكى خالدٌ إلى النبىِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم ، فقال ‏:‏ يا رسول الله ؛ ما أنام الليل مِن الأرَقِ ، فقال النبىُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏:‏ ‏إذا أوَيْتَ إلى فِرَاشِكَ فَقُلْ ‏:‏ اللَّهُمَّ رَبَّ السَّمَواتِ السَّـبْع وَمَا أظَلَّتْ ، ورَبَّ الأرَضِينَ ، وَمَا أَقَلَّتْ ، وربَّ الشَّيَاطينِ وما أضَلَّتْ ، كُنْ لَى جاراً مِنْ شَرِّ خَلْقِكَ كُلِّهِمْ جميعاً أنْ يَفْرُطَ علىَّ أحدٌ مِنْهُمْ ، أَوْ يَبْغىَ عَلَىَّ ، عَزَّ جَارُك ، وجَلَّ ثَنَـاؤُكَ ، ولا إلهَ غَيْرُك‏ Tirmizi narrated in his Sunan that Khalid once complained to Prophet Muhammad Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam that he does not sleep well at night, our beloved Prophet said : "When you go to the bed, say, O Allah ! The Lord of seven heavens & whatever is under them, the Lord of the earths & whatever they carry, Lord of the devils & whoever they misguide, Be my Supporter against the evil of all of Your creations, Pr...

Ibn al-Qayyim: 30 Benefits of Dhikr 1. Dhikr drives away and breaks the shaytan 2. It pleases ar-Rahman 3. It removes the cares and worries of the Heart 4. It brings joy and happiness to the Heart 5. It strengthens both body and Heart 6. It endows the person with Love of Allāh which is the very spirit of Islam - for God has opened a way of access to everything, and the way to Love is constancy in Dhikr. 7. It endows one with vigilance which opens to the door to Ihsan - entering therein, the servant worships Allāh as if he were seeing Him. 8. It predisposes the servant to turn back to Allāh in every state. 9. It endows him with proximity to Allāh. His proximity to Allāh is in proportion to his remembrance; his distance in proportion to his heedlessness. 10. It endows him with Allāh’s own remembrance of him, Allāh says, ‘Remember Me, I shall remember you.“ 11. It endows the heart with life. Ibn Taymiyyah said, ‘Remembrance is to the heart what water is to fish. What...

     I woke up for Tahajjud salaat this morning... This post is not about how pious I am. I am not. I'm just like other Muslims around the world, trying to fulfill my obligations to my Creator. Some days I succeed. Some days I don't. But I keep on trying. I spent yesterday glued to the news about the massacre in Aleppo. I went through many emotions throughout the day; I felt angry and upset. I felt helpless and frustrated. I broke down and cried. I'm not ashamed to admit it. I sobbed - whether it was due to what I saw on the news and on social media, or whether it was due to my own impotence I don't actually know. Maybe it was a mixture of emotions that needed letting out. I over-discussed the days events with friends and family. We played the blame game. It was the Arab leaders at fault... No it was Russia that's the problem ... it's the ruthless Syrian leadership...Iran was to blame! The day was spent over analyzing everything and it helped nothing. ...

🌱 *CRUCIAL UPDATE: 2 NEW CONTAINERS FOR ALEPPO LEAVING THIS WEEK!* Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, Please find below update and share it far and wide. *First of all *all praise to Allah azza wa jall* due to a mind blowing response more than *36 thousand* pound was raised in a few days. This secured and will secure the purchases of both much needed ambulances as well as bulk orders of most needed food and aid items to be purchased locally against most effective price/quantity. *URGENT CALL TO ALL TO DROP OFF MORE AID THIS WEEK* The container was filled last Saturday and by the grace of Allah 2 further containers are booked for: - *Thursday 22 Dec* 2.30 - 5.30 pm - *Friday 23 Dec* 9 - 12 pm Below aid items can be dropped off during normal opening times. ⏰Monday - Saturday 8 am - 6 pm Thursday 8 am - 8 pm Sunday 10 am - 4 pm 🚚 Drop off address: Safestore Self Storage Digbeth Unit 4, Clyde Street Birmingham B12 0NY Next to Renault showroom (1...

Surah Al Kahf, Quran 18 vs 109:   "Qul law kana albahru midadan likalimati rabbee lanafida albahru qabla an tanfada kalimatu rabbee walaw jina bimithlihi madadan"   Say, "If the sea were ink for [writing] the words of my Lord, the sea would be exhausted before the words of my Lord were exhausted, even if We brought the like of it as a supplement."

•• *A heart touching message from a friend to his dead friend...!!* •• My dear friend your no more in this world. Always i used to try to guide you ,call you for masjid and make sure that your on right path. But you never want to listen to me. You just want to be among the friends who just sit in the street slander and make comments on the girls passing by. You just wanted to pass your time on what people love. You just wanted to get high and pass your time just eating haram,looking haram and doing all haram stuffs with your mates. But when i call you to  a spiritual retreat your just busy. You just put all your fake busy schedule to that time and say "Bro, sorry i am bit busy." But when at the same time when your foul friends call you .Even if your busy you postpone your things , just leave your place and join them. Because you love haram which pleases you. But not halal which will please Allah. Now your lying in front of ma  eye . Brother now what can i do?. I cant ...

Suratul Muminoon, 23 verse 91 91. Ma ittakhatha Allahu min waladin wama kana maAAahu min ilahin ithan lathahaba kullu ilahin bima khalaqa walaAAala baAAduhum AAala baAAdin subhana Allahi AAamma yasifoona  "Allah has not taken any son, nor has there ever been with Him any deity. [If there had been], then each deity would have taken what it created, and some of them would have sought to overcome others. Exalted is Allah above what they describe [concerning Him]."

One night Muhammad ibn al Munkadir was crying so violently that his family got extremely worried and called the great scholar Abu Hazim to calm him down. Abu Hazim RA asked him 'my brother what has made you cry so much, and you have made your family worry about you?' Muhammad RA replied 'I read an ayah in the book of Allah and it brought me to these tears' he was then asked what the ayah was. Muhammad responded, 'it is the statement in which Allah SWT says "And there will appear to them from Allah, that which they had not taken in to account.'' Upon hearing this ayah, Abu Hazim became so emotional that even he started crying. Wallahi when i JUST read this my eye began to swell as well despite my dark heart. Because the frightening thought of standing before Allah swt on the day of judgment thinking I have done da'wah, and prayed and read Qur'an that there will be no major sins on my scale on the day of judgment, .....and then suddenly sin...

For those asking for how to help those in Eastern #Aleppo  Syria  , you can donate to the tireless, selfless " White Helmets". Below is the link:  www.whitehelmets.org May Allah reward every single on of them abundantly for their unrelenting and tireless efforts, and also reward us all as we save a soul today. Ameen

  Actions are judged by intentions It is narrated on the authority of Amirul Mu'minin, Abu Hafs 'Umar bin al-Khattab (ra) who said: I heard the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) say: "Actions are (judged) by motives (niyyah), so each man will have what he intended. Thus, he whose migration (hijrah) was to Allah and His Messenger, his migration is to Allah and His Messenger; but he whose migration was for some worldly thing he might gain, or for a wife he might marry, his migration is to that for which he migrated." [Bukhari and Muslim]   عَنْ أَمِيرِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ أَبِي حَفْصٍ عُمَرَ بْنِ الْخَطَّابِ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ: سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَقُولُ: " إنَّمَا الْأَعْمَالُ بِالنِّيَّاتِ، وَإِنَّمَا لِكُلِّ امْرِئٍ مَا نَوَى، فَمَنْ كَانَتْ هِجْرَتُهُ إلَى اللَّهِ وَرَسُولِهِ فَهِجْرَتُهُ إلَى اللَّهِ وَرَسُولِهِ، وَمَنْ كَانَتْ هِجْرَتُهُ لِدُنْيَا يُصِيبُهَا أَوْ امْرَأَةٍ يَنْكِحُهَا فَهِجْرَتُهُ إلَى مَا هَاجَرَ إلَيْهِ".  رَوَاهُ ...

Surah At Tahrim,66 vs 6: يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا۟ قُوٓا۟ أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا ٱلنَّاسُ وَٱلْحِجَارَةُ عَلَيْهَا مَلَٰٓئِكَةٌ غِلَاظٌ شِدَادٌ لَّا يَعْصُونَ ٱللَّهَ مَآ أَمَرَهُمْ  وَيَفْعَلُونَ مَا يُؤْمَرُونَ  Ya ayyuha allatheena amanoo qoo anfusakum waahleekum naran waqooduha alnnasu waalhijaratu AAalayha malaikatun ghilathun shidadun la yaAAsoona Allaha ma amarahum wayafAAaloona ma yumaroona  "O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded."

            Etiquettes of Du' a By: Muhyus Sunnah Hahrat Moulana Abrarul Haq Saahib (RA) To be clean, in the state of wudhu and to face the Qiblah. To keep both hands in front of the chest. To keep a slight gap between the hands. To make du'a silently (as in thana) with sincerity and focus. To have the conviction in the heart that, Insha Allah , my du'a will certainly be accepted. To praise Allah Ta’ala and to recite Durood Shareef in the beginning and end of the duas. To pass the hands over the face after the du'a.